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| A major part of safe sex is not being afraid or embarrassed - being confident enough to direct and control a situation, to be able to say yes or no to something, to check for slipping condoms in a passionate moment, or to wash someone's hands. We never care about looking stupid - as long as we get sex and always get it safely - that's all that matters. The usual other stuff - like using condoms on sex toys and not taking them out of one person and into yourself. Looking out for piercings and new tattoos. Piercings are always getting caught, and can basically be open wounds. Piercings will tear a condom. Breast milk contains some level of the virus - the chances are really low, but we don't take chances. A woman can secrete milk for many months after she stops feeding her baby. We don't play with piss, shit or blood outside of the community. Different sexual positions are relevant - if a condom breaks whilst we fuck on top, gravity could make a life saving difference ! Not running down and covering more surface area - plus it's faster to get to the douche - speed is everthing...so we stay on top or fucking from behind. It's possible to hold a condom at the base at all times whilst fucking - two fingers on either side of the cock base means it can't ride up too high and then slip off - which happens more often than a breakage. Jumping off to check all is still in place, changing the condom regularly, watching out for teeth on rubber and using lube - a dry fuck can feel great but can also rip a rubber. I haven't gone into the many other things we hold in mind that can affect the safesex rating of a situation - passion, alcohol, (we don't get tipsy and have sex - or someone stays sober and becomes the safety monitor) working as a team to watch out for each other - in both safe sex and physical, situational safety. Different types of risk scenarios from a dark sex cinema with many people, to a solo moment with a familiar one, I haven't written about at risk groups at all. But we take it all into account... ...you may wonder with all this to do and remember, how do we ever have a good time ? Well do you remember learning to drive? What a boring collection of stupid things to remember and get right - lethal if you get it wrong. Does it stop you jumping in your Ferrari and burning up the road? - habit makes it possible, and of course it's worth it ! Gay men took safe sex seriously and the rate of transmission for them dropped drastically as a result. Heterosexual, and other so-called 'normal' people - not intravenous drug users or even particularly promiscuous people, - are catching HIV more than any other social group now, ...because you don't think it can happen to you. In 1992 women were 25 percent of the adult HIV population. In 1999 women were 43 percent of the adult HIV population. 33 million adults with HIV - and my figures are out of date now... We won't stop living the way we do, but we will do it as safely and in a manner as informed as we can. |
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| This is hard to describe, but easy to show, and needs a little practise for speed and efficiency - so at soon there will be step-by-step pictures here. The aim of this is that no flesh at all touches cock - including lips or fingers. The traditional prostitute, and very erotic method of hiding a condom inside the mouth then rolling it down behind the lips with teeth, is no good as a safesex technique because lips touch skin. Here it is in shorthand : 1) Assuming you a right handed therefore right is 'safe' and kept for touching your self - keep cock rhythm going with left hand whilst finding condom with the right from where you dropped it... 2) Carefully rip packet open with teeth... 3) Remove condom gently with lips or 'safe' hand... 4) Say "ooh" and place the teat between your lips sucking slightly - this isn't to show what a good time you're having, (though you shouldn't be doing it if you ain't) - it's to get the positioning right ! It looks silly, so getting this bit smooth is a good idea. You should be able to feel whether the condom is right side out or not by the way it unrolls very slightly as you suck it against your lips - learn what this feels like and you can do it in the dark. 5) This is the tricky bit. Let go of cock...put the first two fingers of each hand inside the rim of the condom...suck gently to anchor...stretch condom open... move forwards pressing end of cock against the bit held by your suck...stretch condom wide enough to go over cock end then roll down simply by pulling your fingers away from you. Suck a bit harder to anchor it as you do this, so it doesn't just ping away... 6) Hold condom at base on rubber with 'safe' hand so your lips only ever touch your unjuicy fingers. |
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| - getting it inside out - it won't unroll correctly, plus the fingers that you've used to touch his cock with will be rubbing down the side of the condom that's going in your mouth - defeats the object. - stretching too much or with your fingers at an angle - that breaks through the condom, or makes it weaker to break later - use the flats. - sucking too hard during as an anchor during the rolldown results in a huge airbubble at the end or a total balloon effect - the first isn't safe sex, and the second will totally destroy the moment ! |
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| When you've recovered from accidentally inhaling a condom and don't get air bubbles any more you can: - follow the rolldown immediately with your mouth - not only does this feel great but many men won't know you've put one on if the rest of it was smooth and quick. This avoids any discussion, intimidation or off-putting shift of conciousness/break in the rhythm of the moment. - because the condom is anchored due to the suck pressed against the cockend - it is possible to unroll on a half hard, or even not hard at all cock, then suck until he is hard. You have to be very careful - unroll down to the base of the moment and as he gets harder. your 'safe' fingers against the unrolled rim will give a base to unroll against - this is difficult to describe but it works. Any size, any shape and any angle - wrapped in rubber and ready to go ! |
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| It is very easy to go down on a woman and keep the amount of juices you swallow/get in your mouth to a minimum - and she'll never know or tell the difference. Lick everywhere that isn't wet - thighs, top half of outer lips, belly, then don't go lower than her clit. Use the hand that isn't your 'safe' hand to gently trace and trail everywhere else - then move on to different styles of fingers inside. Dammit - if all you guys did this technique anyway - you'd probably get as many female lovers as we do ! |
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